The blame game

A troubling part of society I have seen lately is the blame game. Everything that happens has to be blamed on someone; nothing can happen just to happen. I understand that denial is a very real part of grief and so is anger, but when does the blame stop? A perfect example is the bridge collapse in Minnesota which was a horrible tragedy. Almost as soon as it happened we were trying to place blame with the DOT, the construction crew repairing the deck, and anyone else remotely involved with the bridge construction. We even went so far as to seek out all bridges constructed in the same manner or with the same plans. Can't a bridge just collapse?

Another example is the mine collapse in Utah. Who is to blame? The mine owner or maybe the foreman for the day who should have foreseen an earthquake coming. The simple fact is that an earthquake occurred and there really is no fault unless you want to go after Mother Nature.

The same thing happens in the hospital. A patient doesn't have the outcome they want and immediately try to blame someone. In therapy, a child blames their parent for unacceptable behavior. When do we stop blaming and start taking responsibility for our actions and feelings? Blame is the easy way out of dealing with a problem.